- What is important to you: There are so many traditions and timelines that the wedding industry decided we all have to accommodate and include when planning our nuptial celebration. From cake cutting to first dances to garters and bouquets to party favours. But if we are really honest with ourselves; none of these things are really so important on the day but they can certainly add an element of fun, but only if they mean something to you. Decide on three things that are important to you on your wedding day. Whatever it may be, don’t feel bad about it! It’s your day and you and your fiance get to choose what your priorities are. Let those things get the majority of the wedding budget, time and effort, and if there’s room for the other stuff, then great! But focus on the stuff you’re excited about first, and then see what else you feel like fitting in.
2. Get to know your vendors: If you’ve been in a bridal party, you know that a bride and groom spend a majority of their wedding with their vendors. Like choosing the friends you want by your side on your wedding day, you want to choose vendors whose company you enjoy, who you trust, and who will help your day be more fun and less stressful, rather than the other way around.
3. Avoid stress: Booking “big” stuff such a coordinator and photographer right away will help you feel productive. What stresses us out is the little things—the details. We’re bound to have hiccups during the engagement process, but keeping up and working as a team with your fiancé will help the sanity.
4. Personalize your wedding: The beautiful thing about the wedding industry evolving is that weddings are becoming so unique and a chance for the couples to express their personal style. Think about what is special and meaningful to you and your fiance as a couple.
5. Keep your budget in mind: If you’re planning a wedding, you know that things add up. It’s easy to go over budget. Like I mentioned in the first point, figure out what’s important to you both as a couple and if you have to, cut what is costly or unnecessary. For example you could save some money by doing a digital save-the-date announcement and wedding invitation. (I offer those services as well ) If you’re on a super tight budget, consider a weekday wedding or an off-season wedding, find a venue that will allow you to bring your own caterer or do your flowers yourself.
6. Be mindful of the small things: Help your photographer out by trying your best to be mindful of the setting of your photos. A good photographer can make any space look beautiful, but help them out by removing as many obstacles as possible.
Here are three really easy ways to do that:
1) When getting ready, have your bridesmaids put all their stuff in a corner of the room. This way there aren’t unwanted items in the background of your beautiful photos.
2) Bring a non-plastic hanger for your dress shot.
3) When you and your bridesmaids walk down the aisle, keep the bouquet around your belly button. Try not to block your face by your flowers.
7. Wedding planner: A lot of venues come with on-site coordinators. Make sure you know their role and what they are doing on the day. Ensure that the coordinator has met your photographer, videographer, DJ, and caterer so that everyone is on the same page regarding the timeline and who is responsible for what. If you don’t have an on-site coordinator, consider hiring one or have a family member help to take care of all the details and to help things go smoothly. The last thing you want to be doing on your wedding day is working.
8. Delegate, delegate, delegate: I don’t know who you are, but I guarantee you are loved by many people! A lot of us brides have trouble delegating tasks, either because we have a very specific vision and trust we will execute it best, or because we don’t want to trouble our friends and family. But people that love you want to help! Think about the close people in your life and their specific strengths and ask if they will take that task off your hands. Likewise, don’t expect every bridesmaid or family member to be as helpful as the next. Different people have different strengths! One friend may be able to single-handedly coordinate the entire event, while another may be better suited to do the penmanship on the invites, while another yet may be in charge of keeping you fed all day. Whatever it is, embrace the strengths of the people closest to you, and let them be helpful in the ways that they can.
9. Keep your body fuelled: When we’re stressed and/or busy, we forget to eat. Make sure your bridesmaids are bringing you water and checking in on you to make sure you are at least snacking all day, or else it’ll catch up to you. If you’re worried about missing out on special moments or not getting the chance to see everyone, keep in mind, that you’ll be fed first, and that when you’re done eating, the guests will still be sitting at their table and you and your husband can visit each table and greet all of your guests. Don’t rush! Enjoy your meal! You certainly paid enough for it.
10. Hair & Makeup Trial: You want to look like the best version of yourself on your wedding day! It breaks my heart when my brides don’t feel drop dead gorgeous and confident. Make sure to schedule a consultation with your hair and makeup artist before your wedding and work out the kinks to make sure you look exactly how you want. Keep in mind that even if the makeup feels cakey and more dramatic than the way you usually wear it, it will photograph well.
11. don’t forget the Emergency Kit: Make sure a bridesmaid or your coordinator has a safety kit in case you need something. Some good things for the kit to contain are stain removal, tampons, small scissors, mini sewing kit, hairspray, safety pins, bobby pins, energy bars, gum, earbuds, band aids, deodorant, makeup remover and Panado to name a few.
12. Share the timeline: Send your timeline to your photographer, videographer, coordinator, bridal party and immediate family. Make sure your friends and family know when to be ready for photos and the ceremony.
13. It’s just one day: Just remember; weddings are only one day…marriage is what’s forever. It’s not about the process of “getting married”, it’s about the fact that at the end of the day you will “be married”, and that’s what is really beautiful. Our weddings should be a reflection of our individual styles and an expression of how we feel about our partner, friends and family. Soak up the day and take a lot of mental snapshots- it goes by quickly. But if you make it truly “you”, and you put in the leg work so that on your wedding day, you know that the details will take care of themselves, it will be the most special, magical and glorious day of your life!
14. Have fun: And don’t forget to have fun! Enjoy your wedding day, enjoy your guests, enjoy the celebrations and enjoy your fiance!